Id like to think both. I love someone because she is beautiful and she turns even more beautiful because I love her.
Both beautiful have little essence of the physical side but more on beauty as a whole, beauty as a person. In order to like someone, you have to find her beautiful. Now now, dont go all superficial. The beauty Im referring to doesnt mean physical beauty only, for me to define beauty in words is to undermine beauty. How do you explain to your loved one why you like him or her? In the mandarin version of Fifty First Dates, Louis Khoo was asked that question and so he thought about it for an entire day and finally realized that you dont need a reason to like someone, you like her simply because you like her. You find her beautiful because you find her beautiful.
SPG(Single Picky Girl) Janice once said she would love to hear a man say to her, You make me want to be a better man, just like some actor whose name unfortunately escapes my tiny brain at this point of time in the movie As Good As It Gets. Similarly, I would SO love to hear my girl utter the words, You make me want to be a better woman.
Just Kidding! It just sounds too weird to hear a woman say this.
I guess womens concern is that whether her man likes her for her looks only or likes her for just being her. The curse of the beautiful, so life is fair after all.
When it comes to guys, love is a procession of stages. The preliminary stage functions to filter out unsuitable candidates, basic criteria to look out for: LOOKS! We are not looking out for extreme beauties mind you, just someone pleasant looking which is of course subjective to every guy. In fact, my dream girl or girls wouldnt be the super models nor the famous celebrities, just some sweet and pleasant girl next door.
If you fail the first audition, dont be discouraged, if the guy is any worth your liking at all, he would spare you a 2nd chance based on the feel or chemistry between the 2 of you. If his feel for you is strong enough to make him want to be a better man and overcome his emphasis on physical beauty, then congratulations, its time to dish out Robbie Williams Better Man.